Congrats!! You are now on one of the fastest and wildest roller coasters of your life! Being engaged has been one of the best times of my life and I know you will feel the same too. There are SO many things to do, see and decide. You may be asking yourself, “where do I start?” which can be such an overwhelming question. These are a few ways to get your planning on track.
Take a few weeks post engagement for “no wedding talk” and simply enjoy the glow and sparkle 😉 of your momentous occasion.
Once you are ready to start planning, talk to your spouse about a 3 big things: budget, vision and values.
Budget seems obvious but for most couples, this can be your first time talking about money. While money can be a sensitive topic, it doesn’t need to be! Talk it out and get on the same budget page. I’ve written another blog post HERE where I’ve shared more about how we decided our wedding budget.
Talking about your vision helps put that dream wedding you’ve had in your head since you were a little girl into words. And while chances our he hasn’t dreamed of his wedding since he was 10, he might have a few things he’s keen to have.
Values is another topic I talk a lot about in my budget blog post. Like love languages, many people have different ideas of what they value on their wedding day. Your soon to be spouse may think having a band is a necessity where you would be fine playing from your iPhone. Getting on the same page with what you find value in on your big day is crucial to making you both feel like it’s your day together.
Don’t be afraid to ask a million questions and lean on a support system. I must have contacted over 300 wedding vendors only to book 8. There really is no dumb questions when it comes to your wedding day. It’s part of the territory in the wedding industry, so lean on the experts to get all the information you need to make the best decision for you and your spouse.
It’s also OK to admit you need help whether that be from family or a planner. Early on, I felt the need to control all aspects of the wedding planning. But between working full time, blogging and planning a wedding there just wasn’t enough time in the day. So I delegated small tasks to my mom and other family to get one thing off my plate. While it was small, in the end it felt good to have one less thing on the checklist to do.
Getting started can be the hardest part once getting engaged. But take time to enjoy your engagement and lean on your partner and friends and family. Wedding planning can be a roller coaster but its so worth the wild ride!