To say that planning a wedding has been one of the most challenging seasons of my life would be a severe understatement. As many of you are already aware, our wedding was originally scheduled for April 11th 2020. We’ve since moved our wedding date four times crossing our fingers for a successful wedding now on March 6th 2021.
We’ve faced amazing highs and terrible lows these past few months as we hold onto the dream of our wedding day. But with any challenge comes lots of learnings. And if any of my learnings helps future brides, COVID or no COVID, I will consider that a small victory. Here are some of the things I learned planning a wedding during a pandemic.
- Hire a wedding planner. We originally opted for a month of planner to help tie up loose strings but once everything began falling apart, we opted to bring our wedding planner on full time. It has been so great to have someone to bounce ideas off of and have a neutral party when making big decisions.
- Vendors matter. Everyone has a budget and while that drives a majority of the decisions regarding vendors, finding genine vendors who have your back makes all the difference when facing challenges. We’ve been so lucky that majority of our big vendors have been wonderful people to work with an
- Read the contracts. Make sure there is verbiage in your contracts that details the plan in the event of “acts of god”, i.e. a pandemic. Knowing what your options are with your vendors is a big part of my next tip…
- Know your plan B. As much as nobody wants to give into the idea of not having the wedding of their dreams, being realistic about what is important for you and what you and your future spouse are comfortable with is necessary. Whether that is a small elopement, a scaled down wedding or a full on postponement – having that plan B (or sometimes plan C) helps take some of the pressure off of planning when you really have no control of circumstances.
- Things and people may change. When planning a wedding over the span of a couple months or sometimes a couple years, things change. Your guest list may evolve, priorities may change and things may be different than how you dreamed. This was a hard pill for me to swallow personally but like any change you learn to grow from it. Our wedding now may not look like it originally did, but it will still be such a beautiful day when it does happen.
Sending love to all you future brides!